All my life, I aspired to be a bad a$$ business woman. Although, the entire time I thought I needed a man to help get me there. As shallow as it sounds, 2 years ago I had hit a point in my life where I said “F- love, marry for money”. I never had the confidence in myself to be the rich man. I relied on men for love, support, compliments, and yes, a financial backing. I watched Gossip Girl with the ambition to finally get the hell out of my own way. I mean, Blair leaned on Chuck until one day she didn’t anymore. She started to build her own Empire (no pun intended)
A little backtrack, every time I fell down after a relationship I ran to one place: New York City. We all watch those movies; the girl moves to the big city and all her dreams come true, right? Well wrong. I moved to the city and I didn’t magically run into my dream guy 3 times in one day (hint to Carrie Bradshaw), and I didn’t get discovered by some wealthy CEO who took me under their wing and gave me the opportunity of a lifetime. But the one thing I did find, was myself. I found what I wanted out of life and myself, not what I wanted from a man.
It wasn’t until about 6 months ago where I took the leap and decided to start a business, my own business. I went in with a $400 investment and a dream. Almost everyone I talked to about it told me it wasn’t a good idea. But when has doubt ever stopped me? All in all, it was the best decision I’ve made in a long time. I found my purpose, my strength and my true love… me.
My favorite quote has most recently become the one by Cher. “
My mom said to me, one day you should settle down and marry a rich man. I said “Mom, I am a rich man”.
Take that quote as you will, but don’t forget that you DO NOT need a man to support you, love you, or care for you. Because babe, you are a rich man.
alexa ferraro 